So, I have decided to take your guys warnings seriously about this bottle interference with the breast feeding. I have told the nurses that enough is enough, no more bottles, because he really was refusing the breast outright. In a preemie, 15-20 min of struggling to latch results in a total failure to feed, because by the time they finally latch, they are too exhausted to get a good feed in.
MrH came in armed to do battle as well, and when the nurses started with their speech about the whys and whereabouts of the bottle, he said "look, this is OUR baby, and we decide what is best for him in the long run" or something like that. They backed out immediately. I was a bit more subdued, but told them that I am willing to come in any time, day or night, with my boob, to get him something to suck on if he needs it, and that I really don't want any more bottles for the next week or so (I did not say never, though that is what I will ask for in one week, hehe). Then, the nurse said finally that I can use the SNS. Well, guess what, yesterday with the SNS, he got in two complete, full, oral feeds!!!
The moral of this story is that they must let me do what I want ;) as it usually works out better anyway.